Are you a porn addict?

Any human activity that produces lots of dopamine in the brain can become addictive. Well, guess what: porn causes a hell of a lot of dopamine to flood the brain. And what makes it particularly addictive is that unlike drugs or alcohol – you don’t have to go buy it – you just have to whip out Google and…geronimo!!! The time might have come to ask yourself…

TEST: Am I a porn addict?

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How often do you go to bed in order to sleep but end up awake for hours, spanking the monkey?

Which of these statements most accurately describes you at this point in your life?

How many times a day - on average - do you have a porn session?

Do you ever look at cute girls in the real world and imagine them in the extreme scenarios of your pornworld?

Has your work ever suffered because you devoted time to porn instead of getting on with a project?

Have you ever found yourself browsing for weird types of porn because you're no longer satisfied by your regular porn?

Do you fear real life sex? Are you confident of your interpersonal skills and your sexual performance?

Have you ever failed to perform sexually with your partner because you'd spent all your energy on porn?

How many times have you started watching an interesting series or film...but ended up surfing porn?

How often do you start looking at porn when you're not even that horny?

Have you ever excused yourself early from a social event so you could return home to watch porn?

Do you ever suffer from porn flashbacks while walking down the street/shopping etc? (vivid images or memories of recently watched porn)

Do you have a clear, viable idea of where you want to be in five years time and how to get there?

Does porn allow you to explore some deeper element of your being such as your femininity?

Have you developed any physical symptoms related to your porn use (wrist/elbow problems, chafed foreskin, anus etc.)

Do girls in ordinary clothes and no makeup seem devoid of excitement compared to silicone chicks in tight dresses and red lipstick.

Do you have a history of addiction and/or compulsive behaviour?

Are you falling behind your friends and peers in terms of social and profesional success?

Are you lonely?

How often do you orgasm and then feel disgusted with what you've been watching? (THIS IS THE LAST QUESTION SO GET READY FOR THE RESULTS)

Are you a porn addict?
VERDICT - Angel: you have a healthy relationship with porn!

Congratulations! Assuming that you answered the questions honestly, you have a perfectly healthy porn habit: moderate, controlled, benign. You might want to reward yourself with a quick hand-shandy.
VERDICT - Little Devil: you need to take it down a notch!

THIS IS YOUR CONSCIENCE SPEAKING: "Okay, porn hasn't completely subsumed your life, but let's face facts: you need to cut down, reorganize your life and start focusing on the real world. You know that you can do better in many different areas of your life so give me a 50% reduction in porn use and I'll be satisfied."
OH DEAR - Blatant Porn-addict: you need to take back control!

OK...this is just a blog post written by a non expert, but there's a possibility that you have a porn addiction. The fundamental question you need to ask is the following: "If porn didn't exist...would my life be a lot better and more productive?" If the answer is 'yes' then you should first try to solve the problem yourself. If you can't... then seek help. On the other hand, if you're happy with your life and your self and your excessive porn use then maybe you don't have a problem. Only you can decide. Good luck, my friend... we all go through addictions at some point or another so don't be ashamed...be proactive.

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MAIN ARTICLE: Sissy porn addiction, transgender impulse and crossdremer fantasies.

For the past couple of months I’ve been considering the following hypothesis:

…That crossdreamers (and ‘sissies’) who do not fully express their femininity in the real world end up spending more time in porn world. This is because it is the only outlet for their femininity, and whether they know it or not…it is deeply important for their mental health to express that femininity.

If you think this applies to you then read on…

 

Defining porn addiction

Porn addiction can be defined as a porn habit that effects your life negatively. In other words, porn addiction is not decided by how much you use porn but by the effect it has on your life.

Imagine you are a loving husband, devoted father, brilliant employee and community activist…you could be a heavy porn user but because you are flourishing in all areas of your personal and profesional life, it’s just an innocuous hobby.

However, imagine you are a bad husband, bad father, unemployed, and help nobody in the community… and you are a heavy porn user. If the porn is stopping you from looking for jobs and not allowing you to perform sexually with your wife and taking up time you should spend with your kids…you are a full blown porn addict.

A more realistic scenario however is that porn doesn’t massively effect your life but if it didn’t exist you would probably make better use of your time. This would make you a semi-porn addict.

Beating semi porn addiction

Serious cases of porn addiction should be dealt with by professionals. Semi-porn addiction is much easier to deal with and should be attacked on 3 fronts:

1. Recognition: recognize that excessive porn use is not good for your life – and almost certainly not good for your soul. Make a commitment to cut back. As abstinence always fails you should not try to live as a Gregorian monk and give up masturbating or porn, but decide how much time you are willing to expend on porn and stick to it.

2. Logistical: Reorganize your day / house / life in a way that reduces the porn options. There are many things you can do. For example…

– Instead of waking up and jerking off – go for a run.
– Kill the wifi connection at certain times.
– Store your computer somewhere else (i.e. not next to your bed)

3. Life change: A lot of people end up spending all day in pornworld because they don’t have their life sorted out. Go for a long walk and ask yourself these 3 questions.

– What do I want from life?
– How do I get it (i.e. what plan do I need to make)?
– How can I organise my days and weekends so I can execute my plan?

When you feel your life is going somewhere it’s less likely you’ll waste hours and hours on porn…you will spend most of your time executing your plan.

If you’re looking to break any type of addiction (porn, drugs, co-dependence etc) then I recommend Russell Brand’s book. It is fucking brilliant!

Listen to the first chapter and start the process of recovery.

If, however, your problem is less addiction and more the inability to get off your ass (thanks, Stefi, for reminding me) then I recommend this book “Beating The Comfort Trap.”

 

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  1. Barbara Haskell Reply

    Quiz shows that I have a healthy relationship with porn 🙂 Probably this quiz is right, as I can see porn as something alike to a vitamins. Some people consume enough vitamins with food, and they do not need to take pills. Sometimes vitamins can save you from scurvy, or they can give you hypervitaminosis. There is no common rule, except from maintaining a healthy level for you personally.

    There is no big need to express myself in rl through clothes, makeup etc. But something like “inner expression” is very important to me. Like there is some feminine energy, which must be channeled somewhere. It can be outer expression, inner expression, or this energy will find a way by itself. Usually it will be porn, if other ways of expression are denied.

    Porn can become an unhealthy addiction, but it also can be therapeutic. Sex (or porn as substitute) is an important and valid side of life, that’s out of question. This is a side of life. A side, not the whole life.

  2. “This might be particularly true for non-transitioners (i.e. transgender people who choose to continue living as their biological gender) and crossdreamers who do not dress or wear makeup.”

    In my experience, the answer is both yes and no. I’ve struggled with my gender identity from a very young age. Self esteem issues had me fighting it all my life. I was addicted to trans erotica because of it…but once I managed to break down my barriers and accept that yes, I am a trans woman, my dependency on the erotica (I say erotica rather than porn because I was more driven by stories than pictures) lessened significantly.

    I present male to the world in general, and I don’t go ‘en femme’ particularly strongly at home (my t-shirts and jeans have been gradually migrating toward women’s cut) but just the embracing the fact that I’m a woman inside seems to have been enough to break the dependency.

  3. Stefi Sovosa Reply

    To me it’s more a matter of personal accountability than “addiction.” By the standards proposed here, almost anything can be “addictive.”

    I know a lot of people who are “addicted to” sitting on their ass and doing nothing all day. It consumes vast amounts of their time, and keeps them from positive achievements of all kinds in every facet of their lives. But I don’t hear much hew and cry for a 12-step program for ass-sitters. Hmm. Maybe we need one.

    • Transcend Everything Reply

      Dear Stefi, it comes by different names – procrastination, idleness, apathy, depression, sitting on your ass – but whatever it is it is definitely a terrible affliction. The best program I found against this is not that proposed for addictive behaviour (though, obviously they are related) but Rational emotive Therapy – as laid out in “Beating the Comfort trap.”

    • Transcend Everything Reply

      Thanks very much for mentioning that. I have now mentioned the procrastination book in my article.,

      • Stefi Sovosa Reply

        Interesting! I’m sure there are a great many “comfort traps” in an affluent society.

        Also, interesting that I watch a lot of porn, and yet I have an “Angel” relationship with it, according to the test–which actually reflects well on the test, because I believe the same.

        My viewing is well-integrated into my relationship with my Domme (who is also my decades-long wife). Between us, it’s not secretive, nor does it detract from the time and energy I devote to her. In fact, it’s part of how we manage the libido imbalance in our realtionship, and it frees her from having more sex than she feels comfortable with. Both sides of the imbalance predate our marriage, and are intrinsic to who we are, so frankly it’s a blessing.

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