Category: Couples Therapy
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Why do married men watch porn? Is he still attracted to me?
Introduction… If you don’t understand the intensity of men’s attachment/addiction to porn, it can be humiliating and shocking to discover that your boyfriend is regularly masturbating to Pornhub. However, there are mitigating and aggravating factors which mean that this habit might be completely harmless on one end or outright harmful on the other. Today we’re…
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My wife caught me watching forced feminisation porn – help!
Dear Felix, I’ll get straight to the point. Two days ago I was caught by my wife in an extremely compromising position, watching hardcore Lustomic forced feminisation porn. Having read your article on ‘should I tell my wife about my crossdreaming’ I was hoping you might be able to tell me how the hell I…
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5 strategies for relationships affected by CROSSGENDER fantasies
(This article is more aimed at couples where crossgender fantasies are causing a problem – not those couples who enjoy them.) This is the first of 3 articles on behaviour which couples often denote as ‘transvestite’ or ‘autogynephiliac’. The following podcast provides excellent context as a young couple discuss the consequences of John’s ‘sissy’ kink.…
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What are the signs my husband is transgender or a transvestite?
Sexual signs… 1) An excessive sexual interest in female clothing – especially super feminine items like lingerie and items made of fabrics usually reserved for females: satin etc. 2) An elevated interest in pegging or other sexual activities where he is submissive. A tendency to lie on his back and open his legs like a…
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Crossdreaming has made me lonely and incapable of a normal relationship
Introduction I have just read a classic description on Reddit of egodystonic crossdreaming… which means, basically, the person hates being a crossdreamer. As is often the way with such cases, the first implement they flagellate themselves with is shame. What particularly upsets this person is their love of humiliation. However, I would point out that…
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How to tell your girlfriend or wife that you are a crossdresser i.e. a crossdreamer
Attention: this post is in response to an e-mail request. It is about telling your girlfriend that it turns you on to dress like a woman. It assumes you understand that ‘crossdresser’ and ‘transvestite’ are misnomers for the real force at work: crossdreaming – arousal at the idea of oneself as a woman. Dear…
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Is it selfish for a transgender father to transition?
SCENARIO: A middle-aged father announces to his three children (all under 16) that he’s going to transition. Is this a selfish act that violates the parent-child contract? The first thing we need to establish when answering this question is – what tends to be the effect on children when a father transitions to female? There…