Is this all a fetish… or am I really transgender? (TEST)

Felix Conrad

Transgender

First, let’s do a test that explores the dichotomy of fetish versus transgender. The Context Every week, a teenager or twenty-something posts on Reddit about how wearing women’s clothes and imagining they have a female body really turns them on, and that, in fact, their entire sexuality is based on cross gender fantasies. Now, they’re considering transition, but can’t help think that maybe the whole thing is just a fetish because they get off on stuff like sissy hypno. This feeling is amplified by two factors… 1. Post orgasmic guilt/relief from the desire to present as female. 2. Although they would prefer to be a girl, they don’t mind so much being boys. Their principle questions are: – is it all a fetish? – are they transgender? – should they transition? And of course, the question is delivered with urgency because the earlier you transition the more feminine is your…

9. Conclusion – transgender fantasy

Felix Conrad

Transgender

Conclusion There are various transphobic groups that will always obsess over the minutiae of transgender fantasy… looking for differences between them and the fantasies of a ‘real woman’. And guess what… they’ll find them… because they exist. Far from indicating  anomaly and invalidation, however, such differences are to be expected. Our sexual experiences have to pass through a mass of male neurology, anatomy and endocrinology, as well as socialisation as a male (that included being told that dressing and behaving like a girl was not correct)… is it any wonder that the resulting sexuality is different? However, putting aside specific fantasies of pre-transition sexuality, there is a wider feeling that the existence of any type of sexual arousal with respect to being a woman invalidates a claim to be transgender. Such negativity springs from our inability to recover from the prudishness and repression of the last century. It is still…

8. Forced feminization and transgender sexuality

Felix Conrad

Transgender

Forced feminisation is forced upon us Of all the fantasies experienced by some transgender people (pre-transition) the most difficult to understand is forced feminisation. In these fantasies the crossdreamer is forced by a dominant man or woman to dress/behave like a female and perform sex acts.   But of course, it’s only hard to understand if you think that the sexuality of a transwoman must be like that of a ciswoman to be considered authentic. Trans critics love to leap on forced fem with the familiar charge ‘a real woman wouldn’t fantasize about being feminised.’ To which I reply ‘Obviously … that’s because a ‘real’ woman has already been feminised by biology.’ As stated ad nauseum… the trans-female sexuality lies buried beneath a mound of male anatomy, socialisation, and in many cases, the belief that crossdreaming fantasies are not a key to their true identity – but a key to…

7. Transgender or transvestite?

Felix Conrad

Transgender

Attire: a body for hire FETISHIST POSITION: “I understand that clothes can turn a cis woman on… like lingerie for example… but only because they signal impending sexual experience. There’s no doubt, however, that many of your so called ‘transgender’ people are simply transvestites… who get turned on – without any other sexual partners involved – simply by being dressed as a woman. That is a fetish if ever I saw one.” Some crossdreamers – pretransition – have a higher erotic interest in female attire than ciswomen. This is due to the lack of a female body in both subjective and objective experience. As previously stated, sexual fantasy for a transgender person involves an imagined body. However, presuming that sexuality is born at an extremely early age… the infant is unlikely to have intimate knowledge of the female body. His conception, therefore, of how to make this leap becomes intimately…

6. Transgender females and transformation

Felix Conrad

Transgender

A fetish for transformation… or a simple case of correction? All sexual fantasies begin with a leap of the imagination; a leap that involves transporting oneself to another place – the setting of the fantasy. Imagine a woman with a really sexy boss, for example; every time she fantasises about her boss she transports herself to the context. She may fantasise about being called to his office and him locking the door… or being at a conference and he invites her to his room, or one hundred and one places which then give rise to the actual sex. This is exactly the same in transgender sexuality… with one slight difference… there is a double leap: both to a place and a body. In transgender sexuality – pre transition – the individual is trapped in the wrong body and thus must be transported to the correct body for the fantasy to…

5. Arguments against Unified Transgender Theory based on certain types of fantasy.

Felix Conrad

Transgender

Appendix: Arguments against Unified Transgender Theory based on the content of certain types of fantasy. Unified Transgender Theory is the definitive and final laying to rest of so called ‘cross gender arousal’ – the stick with which both the community itself and transphobics have been beating transgender people with for the past fifty years. Unified Transgender Theory states that ‘cross gender arousal’ before transition is universal in the transgender psychology and, far from being anomalous, is logical for a woman born in a man’s body. Furthermore, an imagined female form, dress and manners, is likely to feature in all types of fantasy – be they about her future in general or her sexuality. Cross gender arousal is, therefore, no longer seen as a contraindication to transgender, but as one of its primary calling cards. Even men who currently identify as men, if they always identify as women sexually, are considered…

Unified Transgender Theory: is a transsexual woman… a real woman?

Felix Conrad

Transgender

Unified Transgender Theory Introduction…. Although we do not know the exact cause of the transgender condition, it is thought that just as there are intersex people, the transgender person is born with a neurological component – related with gender – of the opposite sex. This means that although they have the body of a male, for example, they feel that they are female. This feeling is so pronounced that they suffer a deep aversion to their body and a persistent desire to change it. Just as psychologists used to describe homosexuality as an illness that could be cured, some psychiatrists have tried to describe the transgender condition as a delusion/mental illness, and tried to cure it. However, this strategy hasn’t worked, and the accepted treatment for the depression of severe gender dysphoria is to help the individual live as the gender they identify with. As an aid to this, and…

1. Gender Core Theory – why am I transgender?

Felix Conrad

Transgender

The causes of the transgender condition As a civilization, we have definitively detailed and deconstructed millions of physical processes: everything from photosynthesis to fertilization, nuclear fission to solar power. However, there is one physical structure which we are nowhere near understanding: the human brain and its principal interface – the mind. Many processes which involve the human brain cannot be categorised or described in simple terms. In fact, there are many elements of our mental life that we are so far from understanding we do not even have the vocabulary with which to discuss them. I will illustrate this with an example from the animal kingdom. We are all familiar with nature documentaries that show thousands of beach nesting birds such as cormorants packed together on a remote strip of coast. Sometimes on these beaches a female hatches her eggs, but unfortunately, all the chicks die. When this happens she…

“Would a ‘real’ woman transition?” The most subversive question in transgender psychology.

Elle

Transgender

  I hate my gran. She voted for Brexit, she doesn’t believe in gay marriage, and she refuses to die and let me inherit her impressive portfolio of properties. However, she does have a compelling way of expressing her conservatism. She employs concise, Spartan sentences that leave you reeling for a comeback. She can also cut men dead with a gaze, dismiss a brilliant argument with a wave of the hand, and zero in with devastating rapidity on your personal failings. To be honest, her style of interaction is refreshing when you’re an academic who spends so much time in convoluted conversations and endless meetings. Needless to say, she is not very impressed with my research on transgender sexuality, or transgender women in general. Our conversation on the subject took the following direction… “Of course, Elle, you know the whole transgender thing is nonsense.” “Why?” “Because a real woman would…

Opinion: is non-binary more a statement of personality than a seperate gender?

Anna Kamari

Transgender

Let’s begin today’s discusion with some reader input…   [perfect_survey id=”24612″]   Debate of the week: Round 1 FELIX: Okay, Anna…get it off your chest…what’s your problem with non binary? ANNA K: Non-binary is a concept that seems perfectly logical to us in the transgender community, but makes no sense whatsoever. It’s a violation of basic philosophy: trying to define a thing by what it’s not. Non-binary is like telling a waiter that you don’t want the chicken salad or the beef stroganoff rather than telling him what you want. Or an imigration agent asking your nationality and  replying ‘I’m non-Chinese.’ Not surprisingly, the agent’s gonna point out that he didn’t ask what you’re not, he asked what you are. If you feel you’re neither gender or both genders or whatever… then tell me exactly that. Telling me you’re non-binary is a redundancy as you’re only going to have to…