Felix Conrad

It’s important to think about the wife’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with it

Autogynephilia

I found the above talk to be very interesting because it really showed the two sides of gender awakening. As the husband discovered his true gender it must have been a whirlwind of emotions and an epiphany, but the very same experience is viewed by her as a slide into nightmare. One tantalizing aspect of the video is that she mentions porn couple of times and I would have liked to have known more about that. She did not mention the A word but one suspects that it’s lurking somewhere there in the background. Her concluding argument is that transition was not an appropriate treatment for her husband’s condition because transition seemed to make him less happy than he was before when he was male. It would be very very interesting to hear the husband giving his version of the story.

Felix Conrad

Is it post orgasmic clarity (PNC) or post orgasmic depression?

Autogynephilia

Intro… When someone is an advocate of the autogynephiliac narrative, they always tend to place great credence and authority in the refractory period or – post nut clarity – as they call it on Reddit (how is it that they just always come up with the most horrible terms ever on Reddit 😅). The basic Vibe of yeah above which follows this idea is that… this is your true self. That maniacal, euphoric fantasist of a moment ago has been derobed dethroned and despoiled and now you lie in your reality. Still want to be a woman now? However, that seems a little bit like taking a depressed person and telling them that this is their true self. All that silliness going around smiling in the office and having fun and being happy, that was all an illusion and this now is the real you. Take into account what happens…

Felix Conrad

What causes paraphilias? A quick and dirty theory…

Sexology

  Today I’d like to propose a theory about the origins and causes of paraphilias. I call it ‘quick and dirty’ because it deals with concepts which will be impossible to verify until we have a complete understanding of the human brain i.e. NEVER. Therefore, this theory is speculative – the sexological equivalent of bar room philosophy. (Quick note: fetishes are not paraphilias. A fetish is a sexual interest that develops later in sexual development by classic conditioning, imprinting or association. My definition of paraphilia is a sexual orientation that is not hetero, homo or bi. More of that later!) My theory on the causes of paraphilias To understand my theory you need to begin with a question: What can we learn from the established list of paraphilias? Are there any common features which call your attention? Look at some examples… Coprophilia Shit Dacryphilia Tears or crying Dendrophilia Trees Emetophilia Vomit Eproctophilia Flatulence…

Felix Conrad

How other forms of autosexuality such as apotemnophilia add credibility to the theory of autogynephilia

Autogynephilia

Autogynophilia is not the only sexual preference which involves the ‘love of oneself as’. Indeed, as Blanchard himself noted there are a number of sexual behaviors in which rather than desire a sexual target, the subject desires to be the target. The existence of such sexualities is for me, one of the most convincing proofs that autogynophilia is a real distinct sexual phenomena and not just nature’s unintended consequence of being transgender. This post, which I wrote sometime ago, is about one of those sexualities, and one of its most interesting aspects is the way in which it’s subject experiences the need to be what he desires in order to feel complete in terms of identity.   TRIGGER ALERT: Don’t read this article if you hate the paraphilia discourse. The mission of this site is to explore all aspects of gender variance. But you don’t have to! You can pick…

Felix Conrad

What is trans-scepticism? A natural reaction to the dogma of trans-fundamentalism

Transgender

What is trans-scepticism? Trans-scepticism is the natural reaction of anybody with half a brain to the incoherence and dogma of contemporary transgender theory. It does not mean that you are transphobic. Personally, I am a trans-sceptic and I would take up arms to defend the trans community, but I’m also not prepared to take any crap from the twitter brigade or the trans thought-police. In my experience, trans-scepticism involves a fundamental acceptance of transgender people and transgender rights, but a series of doubts about certain ideas that dominate trans theory. For example… 1. A solid rejection of the idea that there are 453 genders (demi-gendered, aporagender, poly gender etc.) 2. Uncertainty about the efficacy of transition as a treatment for gender dysphoria (while accepting the right to transition.) 3. The suspicion that while hormones may be the perfect treatment for some, they may also turn transition into a self fulfilling…

Anna Kamari

Dysphoria Reality Check: Even if you’re pretty you can still have relapses!

How to Beat Gender Dysphoria

This week Elle and I saw Felix for the first time in ages (He’s been doing a Masters in counselling.) As an avowed non-transitioner/desister he expressed some reservations about the direction of recent content. Without wanting to bore you, we agreed that every month we would include at least one video or blog post about some of the difficulties of transitioning. So here’s February’s edition for Mister grumpy sour puss. However, it is a very interesting video that answers a question people sometimes ask: Does gender dysphoria go away if you are very pretty and feminine after transition? ‘

Anna Kamari

Please stop referring to me as a ‘transwoman.’ I’m a woman … take it or leave it!

Transgender

There are certain medical and legal contexts where it is useful for a transgender woman to indicate that she is a ‘transgender’ woman. By doing so, she informs the listener about aspects of her biology and past life that are different from the majority of women – which is important for a doctor or an employer researching her professional history. In these cases, the marker ‘transgender’ serves a necessary function the same way ‘diabetic’ does. I completely fail to see, however, why it is necessary to indicate my unusual biology in general conversation. And I especially don’t see why it is necessary to take on the wider,  general identity of a ‘transgender woman’ or so called ‘trans-woman.’ I am a woman. Period.   The increasing use of the term transwoman is deceptive: it has the appearance of a groovy, liberal term that says… “Hey…being trans is not only something you shouldn’t…

Anna Kamari

How to beat the argument that “Transwomen lack the crucial experiences that define womanhood”

Transgender

Introduction. While it’s FACTUALLY correct there are biological and social experiences which only a biological woman can have, this does not make the resulting transphobic VALUE JUDGEMENT correct… …that a transwoman must be seen as less of a woman or not a woman at all because she lacks these experiences. 99% of people who use the ‘cis-experience’ argument are using it to imply that transwomen are second class women.  The idea is particularly prevalent among liberal backsliders who know they should support transgender rights but are looking for a reason not to. It is essential, therefore, that every transwoman be ready to crush this argument in three steps. Step 1: Emphasize the similarities of cis and trans experience. Most liberal backsliders won’t start with biology. They know that the argument from genitalia is too crude. That’s why they’ll usually start with a series of unique social, political and economic experiences that mark out cis-women.…

Felix Conrad

Is a Transgender Woman a Woman?

Transgender

  You will be pleased to know that there is a simple method for answering the question asked in the title of this book. We define what a woman is, and then see if a transgender woman matches that definition. But you might not be so pleased when you find out that defining ‘woman’ immediately gets us in a debate which involves both the philosophy of language and science. On one hand we have conservatives who claim that the word ‘woman’ refers to a set of rigid, biologically defined characteristics involving chromosomes, genitalia and anatomy, and that this definition cannot be changed. They see the definition of the word as set in stone and defined by nature – immutable and unchanging. For them, a transgender woman clearly does not comply with this definition and thus it is incorrect to use the word ‘woman’ to refer to her. While liberals agree…

Anna Kamari

How does a trans girl work out her ideal weight?

Transgender

The quick answer PARADIGM 1: Your ideal male weight minus 2 or 3 kilos. PARADIGM 2: Or… Until everything is perfectly flat and tight. SAFETY NET: Apart from your Mum, anyone that tells you you look too skinny is usually right. Therefore, if you start looking like a junkie and people tell you you’re too skinny, pay attention! link: Omni ideal weight calculator (use the Peterson formula!) link: British NHS BMI calculator The long answer The first assignment on True Feminization is to control your diet, initiate a regimen of exercise and reach your ideal weight. But what is that ideal weight if you’re a biological male intending to live according to your true gender: female. This question caused a debate in our virtual office and as I’m the only trans girl in said office, Elle has charged me with explaining our conclusion. The dilemma On one hand, transgirls have…