Tag: transgender

7. Transgender or transvestite?

Felix Conrad

Autogynephilia

Attire: a body for hire FETISHIST POSITION: “I understand that clothes can turn a cis woman on… like lingerie for example… but only because they signal impending sexual experience. There’s no doubt, however, that many of your so called ‘transgender’ people are simply transvestites… who get turned on – without any other sexual partners involved – simply by being dressed as a woman. That is a fetish if ever I saw one.”   Some crossdreamers – pretransition – have a higher erotic interest in female attire than ciswomen. This is due to the lack of a female body in both subjective and objective experience. As previously stated, sexual fantasy for a transgender person involves an imagined body. However, presuming that sexuality is born at an extremely early age… the infant is unlikely to have intimate knowledge of the female body. His conception, therefore, of how to make this leap becomes…

8. Forced feminization and transgender sexuality

Felix Conrad

Autogynephilia

Forced feminisation is forced upon us Of all the fantasies experienced by some transgender people (pre-transition) the most difficult to understand is forced feminisation. In these fantasies the crossdreamer is forced by a dominant man or woman to dress/behave like a female and perform sex acts.   But of course, it’s only hard to understand if you think that the sexuality of a transwoman must be like that of a ciswoman to be considered authentic. Trans critics love to leap on forced fem with the familiar charge ‘a real woman wouldn’t fantasize about being feminised.’ To which I reply ‘Obviously … that’s because a ‘real’ woman has already been feminised by biology.’ As stated ad nauseum… the trans-female sexuality lies buried beneath a mound of male anatomy, socialisation, and in many cases, the belief that crossdreaming fantasies are not a key to their true identity – but a key to…

9. Conclusion – transgender fantasy

Felix Conrad

Autogynephilia

Conclusion There are various transphobic groups that will always obsess over the minutiae of transgender fantasy… looking for differences between them and the fantasies of a ‘real woman’. And guess what… they’ll find them… because they exist. Far from indicating  anomaly and invalidation, however, such differences are to be expected. Our sexual experiences have to pass through a mass of male neurology, anatomy and endocrinology, as well as socialisation as a male (that included being told that dressing and behaving like a girl was not correct)… is it any wonder that the resulting sexuality is different? However, putting aside specific fantasies of pre-transition sexuality, there is a wider feeling that the existence of any type of sexual arousal with respect to being a woman invalidates a claim to be transgender. Such negativity springs from our inability to recover from the prudishness and repression of the last century. It is still…

How to tell your girlfriend or wife that you are a crossdresser /sissy / autogynephiliac

Felix Conrad

Autogynephilia

Attention: this post is in response to an e-mail request. It is about telling your girlfriend that it turns you on to dress like a woman. It assumes you understand that ‘crossdresser’ and ‘transvestite’ are misnomers for the real force at work: crossdreaming – arousal at the idea of oneself as a woman.   Dear Felix, You repeatedly state in your books that we have a moral obligation to inform a new spouse or girlfriend that we get turned on by dressing like and having sex as a girl. Please could you tell me the best way to go about telling my new girlfriend about my crossdressing and other related desires. Anonymous. Dear Crossdreamer, This is a complex question. While you do have a moral obligation to inform her that she’s not the only one who likes to get dressed up and penetrated, you must also remember that she has…

The late-onset transsexual, transphobia, and passing…

Felix Conrad

Late onset transsexualism

Trans-gender media features a small handful of male to female transsexuals who succsesfully pass as cis-women. A classic example of this is Geena Rocero – who worked as a high flying fashion model for more than a decade. These noble women have chosen to out themselves as transgender and they should receive all the respect that such action deserves. However, the experience that these women have had – both in their trajectory as transsexuals and in their coming out – is markedly different to that of the comunal garden late onset transsexual. The reason is the same reason why some women are immediately courted and favoured over others: beauty. Whether a human is transsexual or not… if he or she is flawlessly beautiful at the moment of presenting themselves to the world… acceptance is forthcoming. I recently saw a perfect example of this on a British chat show when an…

5. Should I transition? – The workplace

Felix Conrad

Transition

This is an excellent video on transition in the workplace – from a Director of Human resources (unfortunately the audio quality is low, but listenable.) Introduction Let’s use your imagination to envision transition at work. I want you to imagine arriving at work on that first day in a stylish shirt-dress you picked up from Nordstrom on the weekend, tastefully made up, and wearing brown heels. I want you to imagine the exact route you will take from the moment you enter the premises to the moment you arrive at your desk, and finally to your bosses desk to bid him or her good morning. Think of every person you will see along the way and think of what words you will exchange. Once each interaction is finished, imagine the camera swinging back and capturing the comments they are making to each other once you’re out of earshot. What are…

6. Should I transition – Hobbies, exercise, socialising

Felix Conrad

Transition

Maybe you like hockey, maybe you go ballroom dancing, or maybe deep sea diving is your thing. As later episodes of I’m Cait showed us – with Caitlyn stressing about her status at the local golf club – transition affects every corner of our lives… including our hobbies and sporting life. Above is an excellent video from Caro Land who has a channel on youtube. She talks frankly about getting outed at her local gym. As a fitness fanatic she was extremely taken aback by the experience and is still debating whether to return there. Questions What is your principal hobby and how would it be affected by your transition? What is your principle sporting activity ” “? Social life It is impossible to find a study of happiness that does not emphasise the importance of friends and socialising. I want you to focus less on your friends’ immediate reaction…

Direct evidence that the autogynephilia theory fuels transphobia

Felix Conrad

Autogynephilia

On the weekend I discovered a YouTube channel dedicated to ‘debunking the transgender narrative’ and exposing late onset transsexuals for what they are: deluded frauds who are all in the throes of a fetish called autogynephilia. To my horror, they then started to read directly from Anne Lawrence’s essays – paying particular attention to lines that referred to transsexualism as a paraphilia i.e. – a fetish. I then visited the website of the presenters which had athe large banner above about Caitlyn and AGP. (I am not going to link to the site because that will bring them publicity). In article after article they use the autogynephilia theory to ridicule, humiliate and denigrate transgender people, even going so far as to give lists of well-known transgender rapists and molesters. The authors of this site are two ‘reformed’ trans people and it quickly emerges in their videos that they are involved…