Category: Transition

Felix Conrad

3. Should I transition? – Sexual motives

Transgender

  Deep down, is it all about sexual desire? As a transgender person, you inhabit an alien body. Wanting to experience sex in the right body, and getting sexual pleasure from imagining sex in that body is, therefore, only natural. That’s why we consider crossdreaming to be a clear sign of an underlying transgender psychology. However, if you have been socialised as a male and the only conscious remnant of that psychology lies within your sexuality, then it is unlikely you will adapt well to transition: passion is not enough. Passion fades, starting with one of its main engines – testosterone. Hormone therapy means your libido will take a direct hit, changing the way in which you think and feel about sex, and this takes some getting used to. More important, however, will be the passion damping effects of reality: you will be constantly exposed to the stimuli of outwardly…

Felix Conrad

What Happens When A Crossdreamer Doesn’t Transition? Arch-skeptic Takes a Different Look

Crossdreaming

Introduction: The Importance of Challenging Your Own Views on All Matters Related to Transgender Health Look, I’ll be the first to admit it – I’ve spent a fair bit of time being skeptical about transition as the go-to solution for gender dysphoria (caveat: I’m talking here about adults, especially ones with a history of cross dreaming. I’m not talking about kids because I just don’t know anything about that and I don’t talk about stuff I don’t know nothing about. Unless I’m drunk which is quite often, but I’m not drunk now). But you know what? Sometimes you need to challenge your own views and look at things from another angle. That’s what intellectual honesty is all about, right? So today, instead of focusing on the potential pitfalls of transition (which I’ve done plenty of times before), let’s flip the script and examine what happens when people who experience severe…

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Reviving our playlist with 2 great videos on breast augmentation surgery

Transition

I have been kicking Felix’s ass for six months to revive the site’s playlist. As his ass is proving extremely durable, I just got the password myself. The first videos I’ve added are from Danielle Mansutti and their relevant to many of our visitors because she has a completely flat chest and is having a boob job. She’s so cute and nice and open…and I think you’ll really appreciate her story.

Felix Conrad

Should the autogynephiliac transition?

Autogynephilia

Editor’s note: if you’re looking for a more trans-positive article then search do our Transition Test. If you’re looking for a more trans-skeptic article then keep on reading this page.   Step 1 of the Fusion Program: Accept that ‘transition’ is simply not realistic or desirable in the case of an autogynephiliac Disclaimer: There are different degrees of gender dysphoria. Some men experience gender dysphoria and a strong female identity, but they can continue living as men; however, some men experience gender dysphoria so intensely that living as a man is just not an option… they must transition. This essay is absolutely not for the second type of sufferer who is deeply transsexual and must transition. In fact, I would urge you not to read this because it is directed towards men who, for one reason or another, cannot or don’t want to, transition, and therefore it is biased towards…

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What is a transition sceptic? TWT moves to video blogging…

Transition

What is a transition sceptic? A transition sceptic is a transgender person who accepts and supports the right to transition but is sceptical that it would actually cure their own gender dysphoria. Transition scepticism is an extremely important development in transgender thought because the accepted wisdom has always been that transition will cure or reduce dysphoria…when in fact – in some cases – it can make it worse. Third Way Trans (a detransitioner) brilliantly captures such thinking in his new video. Speaking of transition he says… “But there were things that were still wrong afterwards…like the whole point was that this is supposed to cure your dysphoria and what I found was it didn’t actually do that. I just became more uncomfortable with different parts of my body…like my big hands and strong jawline.” Transition is perfect for some transwomen. However, that it is not the best treatment for some…

Felix Conrad

2. Should I transition? – The reality of telling your family you’re transgender

Transition

Imagine the scene… Mum and Dad opposite you on the sofa, eagerly awaiting your ‘announcement’. They’ve already discussed it among themselves and have settled on three possibilities… a) you’re getting married. b) you’re going to be a father. c) you’re going to get promoted. Your actual announcement… d) none of the above. Definitely, none of the above. You nervously tell them that you’re going to transition and your Dad asks ‘That’s an island somewhere in the Carribean, isn’t it?”   Emotional Dimensions: The first, rather confusing law of dealing with family is this… That most of what you think… isn’t really what you think. What this means is that our relationship with our parents and our siblings has an emotional, subconscious element that is beyond our control. Therefore, whatever ideas you formulate in your conscious mind, for example – “I don’t care what they think…” are not necessarily your real…

Felix Conrad

5. Should I transition? – The workplace

Transition

This is an excellent video on transition in the workplace – from a Director of Human resources (unfortunately the audio quality is low, but listenable.) Introduction Let’s use your imagination to envision transition at work. I want you to imagine arriving at work on that first day in a stylish shirt-dress you picked up from Nordstrom on the weekend, tastefully made up, and wearing brown heels. I want you to imagine the exact route you will take from the moment you enter the premises to the moment you arrive at your desk, and finally to your bosses desk to bid him or her good morning. Think of every person you will see along the way and think of what words you will exchange. Once each interaction is finished, imagine the camera swinging back and capturing the comments they are making to each other once you’re out of earshot. What are…

Felix Conrad

6. Should I transition – Hobbies, exercise, socialising

Transition

Maybe you like hockey, maybe you go ballroom dancing, or maybe deep sea diving is your thing. As later episodes of I’m Cait showed us – with Caitlyn stressing about her status at the local golf club – transition affects every corner of our lives… including our hobbies and sporting life. Above is an excellent video from Caro Land who has a channel on youtube. She talks frankly about getting outed at her local gym. As a fitness fanatic she was extremely taken aback by the experience and is still debating whether to return there. Questions What is your principal hobby and how would it be affected by your transition? What is your principle sporting activity ” “? Social life It is impossible to find a study of happiness that does not emphasise the importance of friends and socialising. I want you to focus less on your friends’ immediate reaction…

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