Category: Autogynephilia

Autogynephilia Perspectives
Welcome to our comprehensive section on Autogynephilia, the only place in the world where you can explore a multitude of perspectives on this complex and often misunderstood phenomenon. Here, we maintain a completely open mind, not necessarily because we are open-minded by nature, but because we believe in the importance of exploring Blanchard’s Theory from every angle—whether to prove or disprove it.

In this category, we delve deeply into topics surrounding Autogynephilia, cross-dressing, and female embodiment fantasies, offering insights that go beyond theoretical discussions. Our content is dedicated to addressing the lived experiences of those who navigate these compulsive sexual desires and the accompanying aspiration to transition to a female identity.

Our primary focus is on providing practical advice and emotional support to help individuals manage these desires in a healthy and fulfilling way. We discuss strategies for coping, share personal stories, and offer guidance on how to integrate these aspects into one’s life with dignity and respect.

Whether you are personally experiencing these feelings, know someone who is, or are simply interested in learning more, our blog is a resource designed for you. Our goal is to foster a community where open dialogue and understanding can flourish, helping everyone make informed and compassionate decisions about their lives.

Join us on this journey of discovery and acceptance, and stay tuned for regular updates and expert contributions.

Felix Conrad

Is autogynephilia real? Yes… but…

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The podcast… The video…   Yes, autogynephilia is real. It’s a thing. It exists. But acknowledging its existence doesn’t mean we rush off to award Raymond Blanchard a Nobel Prize or treat the concept as the final word on the phenomenon (and certainly not on gender identity and transition.) Understanding AGP requires context, caution, and nuance—hence the Three Laws of Autogynephilia: The Three Laws of Autogynephilia LAW 1: Just because the sexuality described by the term “autogynephilia” exists doesn’t mean it’s the best or most appropriate label to use. My mate Trevor might argue that Welsh people should be called “sheep sha**ers,” but most would (rightfully) quibble with his term. Even if he Latinizes it to amatores ovium, it doesn’t suddenly make the label acceptable. The term “autogynephilia” may align with conventions for naming sexual preferences, but this doesn’t make it immune to critique or misuse. Some might consider this…

Felix Conrad

The autogynephilia virus is spreading…

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In what sense is AGP a virus? Excuse the clickbait title, but I thought it would be interesting because I knew that there would be three interpretations by visitors of this site… 1) Those who believe that the concept of autogynephilia is bogus, transphobic and toxic… and so see any advance in awareness of the theory as a spreading malignancy. 2) Transphobes and radical feminists who see AGP as a dark truth behind all things transgender and believe it is some menacing threat spreading through society. The idea that – like reds under the bed or a fifth column – there is a growing army of crossdreamers infiltrating all levels of society. 3) And this is the one I fall into: the belief that perhaps the actual thing – autogynephilia (whatever it is) is actually increasing in prevalence in the male population. This, however, is probably just because a lot…

Felix Conrad

It’s important to think about the wife’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with it

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I found the above talk to be very interesting because it really showed the two sides of gender awakening. As the husband discovered his true gender it must have been a whirlwind of emotions and an epiphany, but the very same experience is viewed by her as a slide into nightmare. One tantalizing aspect of the video is that she mentions porn couple of times and I would have liked to have known more about that. She did not mention the A word but one suspects that it’s lurking somewhere there in the background. Her concluding argument is that transition was not an appropriate treatment for her husband’s condition because transition seemed to make him less happy than he was before when he was male. It would be very very interesting to hear the husband giving his version of the story.

Felix Conrad

Is it post orgasmic clarity (PNC) or post orgasmic depression?

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Intro… When someone is an advocate of the autogynephiliac narrative, they always tend to place great credence and authority in the refractory period or – post nut clarity – as they call it on Reddit (how is it that they just always come up with the most horrible terms ever on Reddit 😅). The basic Vibe of yeah above which follows this idea is that… this is your true self. That maniacal, euphoric fantasist of a moment ago has been derobed dethroned and despoiled and now you lie in your reality. Still want to be a woman now? However, that seems a little bit like taking a depressed person and telling them that this is their true self. All that silliness going around smiling in the office and having fun and being happy, that was all an illusion and this now is the real you. Take into account what happens…

Felix Conrad

How other forms of autosexuality such as apotemnophilia add credibility to the theory of autogynephilia

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Autogynophilia is not the only sexual preference which involves the ‘love of oneself as’. Indeed, as Blanchard himself noted there are a number of sexual behaviors in which rather than desire a sexual target, the subject desires to be the target. The existence of such sexualities is for me, one of the most convincing proofs that autogynophilia is a real distinct sexual phenomena and not just nature’s unintended consequence of being transgender. This post, which I wrote sometime ago, is about one of those sexualities, and one of its most interesting aspects is the way in which it’s subject experiences the need to be what he desires in order to feel complete in terms of identity.   TRIGGER ALERT: Don’t read this article if you hate the paraphilia discourse. The mission of this site is to explore all aspects of gender variance. But you don’t have to! You can pick…

Felix Conrad

Why are female clothes so prominent in my fantasies? Chapter 1 of ‘Autogynephilia’: the origins of the ‘transvestite’ impulse

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Point A: a human is born a biological male. Point B: forty years later he wants to chop his balls off and change his name to Tammy. Question: what the hell happened between point A and point B? Where should we start if we want to understand the phenomena? Answer: at the beginning. CHAPTER 1 – The Beginning   The first cross gender experience for many autogyenphiliacs  is what psychiatrists call… a ‘transvestite’ experience. So, let’s begin by asking ourselves what a transvestite is, and how it relates to problems with gender identity. There are two definitions of ‘transvestite’: the savvy one – relevant and necessary to readers of this book – and a dumbed down version for members of the public and the psychiatric profession. The dumbed down version is this: a transvestite is a person who derives sexual stimulation from wearing the clothes of the opposite gender. The savvy…

Felix Conrad

If you’re still arguing about autogynephilia … you don’t understand it!

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  I was amazed to find a thread on the crossdreamer forum yesterday (best forum on the net to discuss crossgender sexuality!) about autogynephilia. For two years I’ve been a member of this forum and discovered they were still having the same argument as the day when I arrived. Obviously, I understand why this happens, and considering I’ve penned so many articles on the damned topic myself…I’m hardly one to talk. However, I did get a profound sense that I was in different place from my friends, and today I’d like to explain that place and my belief that if autogynephilia gets you into a trans-rage then you’re missing something. Firstly… 1) It’s not worth spending energy on…. Trans people take the theory of autogynephilia more seriously than it deserves. They don’t understand that the more they talk about it and try to disprove it (as if it was a real…

Felix Conrad

Should children be taught about autogynephilia?

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  If I ever have to listen to another explanation of what autogynephilia is… I will go mad. Still, the fact that every single person who makes a video about the topic has to spend 10 minutes telling everyone what it is shows just how the public in general don’t know anything about it. Anyway, once you get past that you will get to the best part of the video where she says an interesting line… “Men have been coaching each other for decades in more palatable narratives.” 🤔 She also makes a very good point about how children who know nothing about autogynephilia, – but are autogynophiliacs – are given no other conceptual framework to understand their experience other than the transgender narrative. In that case… society and the medical profession and families are not educating these children well. This raises a very difficult question of whether or not…

Felix Conrad

What Is the Cause of Autogynephilia?

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What Is the Cause of Autogynephilia? While Socrates thought it terribly clever to answer a question with a question, my teachers thought it was terribly rude. Thus, though I hate to do it, I have to begin my answer with a question (but you should already know, everything to do with autogynephilia is complicated, including its causes and origins.) The Question That Needs to Be Answered First Before we can determine the cause of autogynephilia (AGP), we must address a fundamental question: is Autogynephilia a fetish or an orientation? This question is crucial because fetishes and orientations are thought to have different causal pathways. Is Autogynephilia a Fetish? If AGP is a fetish, it would belong to the category of what John Money described as a “vandalized love map.” This means that a person’s sexual development was altered by specific life experiences, such as exposure to certain stimuli during a…

Felix Conrad

Is Autogynephilia Creepy?

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Is autogynephilia creepy? Yeah, kind of… but let’s be honest, an enormous amount of the sexual dimension is. Think of the local beauty in my town, Maria, and the most beautiful guy, Jordi. When you think of this beautiful Catalan couple together you think of two exotic olive skinned beautiful young people and it’s all wholesome and feel.good vibes. Then think about the old git, Pedro, who lives next to them with his yellowing teeth and a few strands of limp greasy hair who constantly fantasizes about Maria his neighbor: Same girl, same universal human drive, but in the hands of an old man, we see it as, quote unquote, ‘creepy’. Which should probably be your first indication that what we see as creepy is a little bit unfair. I mean, there’s billions of old people, and we basically expect them to do the decent non creepy thing and just…