Felix Conrad

How to defeat the ‘Paraphilia by Association’ argument…

Autogynephilia

I’ve just been rereading Anne Lawrence, and one passage particularly struck me: the relationship between other self directed sexual behaviors and crossdreaming. Anne Lawrence uses these behaviors as proof that crossdreaming (autogynephilia) is a paraphilia and that any resulting female identification the result of said paraphilia. The argument We know that for every sexual preference there exists a subgroup of people who are not just attracted to the target, but attracted to the idea of themselves as the target. Thus, there is a small percentage of paedophiles who are turned on by the idea of being children, a number of plush toy fetishists who are turned on by the idea of being plush toys, and… a number of heterosexual guys who are turned on by the idea of being women etc. Clearly, this sexual desire to be the target is caused by a paraphilia; obviously a person who wants to…

Felix Conrad

The cause of autogynephilia: erotic target location errors

Autogynephilia

One of the most popular hobbies amongst transgender folk is the ancient art of Blanchard bashing. In its spontaneous form it can involve nothing more than a conversation in which the autogynephilia theory proposed by sexologist, Raymond Blanchard, is vigorously criticised. In the future, though – when raving transsexuals finally take over the world – Blanchard bashing will take on a more organised form with mass rallies where transfundamentalists gather in the street to burn his books, shout anti Blanchard slogans and preach jihad against the cisgender infidels. What proponents of Blanchard bashing fail to see, however, is that – despite the offensive language of his work – he did make a valuable contribution to transgender studies. Before Blanchard – or Blancho – as I like to call him (just the name Blanchard is enough to make me yawn) – there were only two types of cross-gender behavior. There were…

Felix Conrad

Direct evidence that the autogynephilia theory fuels transphobia

Autogynephilia

On the weekend I discovered a YouTube channel dedicated to ‘debunking the transgender narrative’ and exposing late onset transsexuals for what they are: deluded frauds who are all in the throes of a fetish called autogynephilia. To my horror, they then started to read directly from Anne Lawrence’s essays – paying particular attention to lines that referred to transsexualism as a paraphilia i.e. – a fetish. I then visited the website of the presenters which had athe large banner above about Caitlyn and AGP. (I am not going to link to the site because that will bring them publicity). In article after article they use the autogynephilia theory to ridicule, humiliate and denigrate transgender people, even going so far as to give lists of well-known transgender rapists and molesters. The authors of this site are two ‘reformed’ trans people and it quickly emerges in their videos that they are involved…

Felix Conrad

A definition of autogynephilia/ femephilia: Introduction to Felix’s book

Autogynephilia

  INTRODUCTION A word on terminology. In my experience, transgender people are the greatest sticklers for terminology I have ever encountered. They can spend millions of internet forum megabytes arguing over the exact meaning of words like ‘transexual’ ‘autogynephilia’ and which pronouns to use. I’ve read my George Orwell, and it’s true that language can be used to fortify both existing power structures and popular prejudices, but I can’t help feel that these people should… get a fucking life! (Though I admit I’ve engaged in such debates so I’ll put myself at the front of the getting a life queue.) Therefore, please try to get past the terminology and think about the substance of the book. The following terms are used in this book and this is what I mean by them.   Femephilia: I use this term when focusing purely on the sexual drive towards cross gender behaviour. It…

Felix Conrad

Optimum mental health is absololutely vital

Autogynephilia

  Step 3 of the Fusion Program: Eliminate all mental pathologies… This may not be relevant to all readers but it’s certainly relevant to some, and they need to take decisive action immediately. You see, there are some people who initiate a program of life change and start out, logically, by focusing on important details like jobs and relationships and lifestyle. However, they have jumped the gun; the first thing you must do before anything else is to solve any major – or minor – problems you have with your mental health. These problems are often the cause of discord in all those areas mentioned above: jobs, relationships, money and lifestyle. Once you fix the root cause, then you can deal with the details. A common problem with people who have gender issues is that it becomes a mono causal root of all evil… …I’m alcoholic because of my gender issues.…

Felix Conrad

Find out why the people in your life don’t consider you the best person they know

Autogynephilia

  Step 8 of the Fusion Program: Discover and correct your faults Maybe people already consider you the best person they know… but I doubt it. If your behaviour had been informed from an early age by your deeper female self however, they probably would. Now it’s time to find out what went wrong, because things aren’t going to suddenly occur to you like magic just because your expressing your female side; sometimes you have to actively investigate and analyse what has happened in your life to find the way forward. Discovering your faults as a person and correcting them is definitely the way forward. Let me repeat that: discovering your faults as a person and correcting them is definitely the way forward. I repeat it because humans are incredibly bad at doing this, and it’s a tragedy because correcting your faults is one of the most significant and effective ways…

Felix Conrad

Should I ‘come out’ to my friends and family and tell them I am transgender?

Autogynephilia

  Like most people, I believe in the twenty-first century principles of equality, openness and tolerance. I also believe people should be true to themselves and to others. However, I do not have it clear whether it is wise or necessary to out yourself as transgendered, autogynephiliac or crossdreamer. In the first place, it is not a straightforward jump out of the closet. When you tell people you’re gay they immediately know what you’re talking about. If someone wants to come out as an autogynephiliac they’re gonna have a lot of explaining to do. I give you an extract from Electra to illustrate this. “Think of a group of adults describing their relationship with blowjobs to a panel of ordinary citizens. First up comes a heterosexual woman: “I’m a woman and I like to suck men.” Everyone on the panel nods their head in understanding. Then comes a gay guy:…

Felix Conrad

Should I tell my wife about my autogynephiliac fantasies?

Autogynephilia

  (This article presumes that you yourself didn’t fully understand your crossdreaming when the relationship began, but now you do, and your crossdreaing has intensified. Should you tell her? However, if you are already fully concious of your crossdreaming and are starting a relationship then I think the issue is much clearer – you have a moral responsibility to tell her; however I will explore this in another article.) This is a very difficult question. The answer is… it depends on your wife’s personality, and how much you love her. For example, if you know your wife is not going to take it well and the relationship is of high value then you will not want to jeopardise your relationship by telling her you fantasise about being a woman being fucked by two guys (for example). This is the point where some high-minded people go “yes… but if she was…