Category: Crossdreaming

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Felix Conrad

What Happens When A Crossdreamer Doesn’t Transition? Arch-skeptic Takes a Different Look

Crossdreaming

Introduction: The Importance of Challenging Your Own Views on All Matters Related to Transgender Health Look, I’ll be the first to admit it – I’ve spent a fair bit of time being skeptical about transition as the go-to solution for gender dysphoria (caveat: I’m talking here about adults, especially ones with a history of cross dreaming. I’m not talking about kids because I just don’t know anything about that and I don’t talk about stuff I don’t know nothing about. Unless I’m drunk which is quite often, but I’m not drunk now). But you know what? Sometimes you need to challenge your own views and look at things from another angle. That’s what intellectual honesty is all about, right? So today, instead of focusing on the potential pitfalls of transition (which I’ve done plenty of times before), let’s flip the script and examine what happens when people who experience severe…

Felix Conrad

Do women have autogynephiliac fantasies?

Autogynephilia

Introduction Yesterday, I read an article by Noah Berlatsky entitled… Why Are Trans Women Penalized For Body Fantasies Everyone Has?  The article claims that when a crossdreamer gets turned on by lingerie or bimbofication, they are experiencing the same buzz a cis-woman experiences for lingerie or the idea of big boobs. In other words, it’s not some kind of ‘autogynephilia’ or ‘transvestic fetish’ but simply…a ciswoman’s sexuality trapped in a man’s body. Not only is this idea nonsense, but it’s the sort of narrative that ends up doing more harm than good to the mental health of transwomen. Why..? …Because it causes cognitive dissonace and unrealistic expectations. They tell themselves they have a cis-woman’s sexuality but continue to experience fantasies that they know, deep down, aren’t very cis. For example, fantasies about… _ Lactation, motherhood and/or female urination. _ Being humiliated and abused for being a ‘sissy’ or a ‘transvestite.’…

Felix Conrad

Am I really attracted to men? (‘The Faceless Man’ and other essays)

Autogynephilia

  The ‘faceless man’ and the terrifying possibility that we have no sexual orientation. Hi, my name’s Felix Conrad and I love black coc*k. I apologise in advance to black men across the world for this blatant sexualisation of their organs but, let’s face it, that’s what sexual organs are for. Furthermore, by the same logic I’ll have to start apologising to Swedish girls who work as au-pairs, French women that are actually French maids, and any other class of people who have become the object of saucy stereotypes. So I repeat…I love black c%*k. In fact, I love black coc*s – plural…the more the better, and the blacker and bigger and shinier they are, the better too. I would stuff them one after the other in my cake hole and merrily chomp on them like there was no tomorrow. Or would I? You see, this love only exists in…

Felix Conrad

What is crossdreaming?

Crossdreaming

What is a crossdreamer? A crossdreamer is a person who gains sexual, emotional and psychic satisfaction from cross gender ideas or behaviour. The sexual fantasies of male to female crossdreamers can include any or all of the following… 1. Being dressed as a girl. (transvestic) 2. Behaving like a girl. (behavioural) 3. Being embodied as a female and having a vagina etc. (anatomical) The common thread of these fantasies is the need to be feminine. This does not mean they aren’t turned on by heterosexual sex. Many crossdreamers are married and able to play the sexual role expected of a husband. However, deep down their fantasies always return to being feminine. Where does the term come from?   ‘Crossdreaming’ is a term coined by Jack Molay for a phenomenon that some sexologists refer to as ‘autogynephilia’ (and psychiatrists as transvestic fetishism.) For many transgender theorists, however, crossdreamer sexuality is simply…

Felix Conrad

How crossdreamers can live longer and earn extra cash!

Autogynephilia

  Having spent a sizable portion of my time recently, being intellectually skull fucked by the notorious WXLUP, I would like to extract something positive from the experience. I initially thought of creating an app – The WXLUP generator – which would, on demand, produce the type of overlong sentences he seems to favour. This is not a real quote, but one from the generator… It is the thing therein, therefore, which reflects the essential reductionist dimension of the fetish’s chief quality: that of being simultaneously constructed within both the microcosm and the macrocosm of latent… Seeing little commercial application for such a generator – other than to induce migraines – I have shelved my plans and settled for a philosophical learning. Which is… When it comes to transgender philosophy the emotion leads the intellect, making some disputes impossible to resolve. This is because the people involved have formulated an…

Felix Conrad

Is it acceptable to use the term ‘fetish’ and ‘paraphilia’ when talking about crossdreaming?

Crossdreaming

I’d like to speak today about a linguistic dispute in the reddit crossdreamer thread. A dispute which can be described in the following terms… – Some members of the community want to refer to crossdreaming as a fetish . We will call them fetishists. – Some members are offended by this. We will call them crossdreamers How to resolve this issue First of all I want to make clear that this is solely a linguistic dispute. Crossdreamers have no problem with the idea that crossdreaming is fundamentally sexual.. ie… there are no hidden female identities, no transgender narrative… and that the crossdreamer is primarily motivated by a sexual urge. Crossdreamers do not believe that, but recognise it is a valid argument. So that’s not the cause of the dispute. What offends the crossdreamers is the use of the words fetish and paraphilia when talking about that sexual urge. The crossdreamers…

Felix Conrad

Crossdreaming has made me lonely and incapable of a normal relationship

Crossdreaming

  Introduction I have just read a classic description on Reddit of egodystonic crossdreaming… which means, basically, the person hates being a crossdreamer. As is often the way with such cases, the first implement they flagellate themselves with is shame. What particularly upsets this person is their love of humiliation. However, I would point out that if you are turned on by submission then you should be grateful that all you require is forced feminisation. When it comes to BDSM, forced feminisation is child’s play. What is it, really? It’s basically a game of dress up followed by penetration. In contrast, other forms of domination require burning, whipping, binding, suffocation, being hung upside down, trampled on, shat on and pissed on. Then bear in mind that there are currently circulating in society – child molesters, zoophiliacs, amputee fetishsits and people who are into stuffed toys and balloons. However, shame is…

Felix Conrad

If my transgender experience began with a sexual experience… is my female identity a creation of my sexuality?

Crossdreaming

    This question is annoyingly persistent in the crossdreaming community, and it is a morbid, obsessive question which lingers in the transgender mentality, causing doubt and shame. It is so important we resolve this question that I am going to deal with it in detail and write down the different ways in which it is formulated. It goes like this… 1) Is the cross gender identity I’m developing now, motivated – deep down – by my sex drive? 2) While my female identity may be extremely nuanced, and based around a whole set of aesthetic and personal tastes that aren’t sexual – is it really just a sophisticated form of being horny – an outgrowth of my sexual urge to be a woman? 3) To put it bluntly, in a way which all of us would consider crude, offensive and wrong, but one that occurs to me in moments…

Felix Conrad

Who is Jack Molay?

Crossdreaming

We all know that he is the founder of crossdreamers.com and an ardent transgender activist… but what’s his favourite pasta sauce? Does he like football? What motivates him get to get out of bed each morning?” If you’ve ever wondered who Jack Molay is? (And I know I have) this is your chance. Hi Jack. Let’s start with five random questions. What is your favourite pasta sauce and are you a good cook? My pasta sauce will be very basic: A can of crushed tomatoes, some tomato puree, a couple of garlic cloves, virgin olive oil, salt, pepper, fresh basil and oregano. Then let it simmer for some 45 minutes. We normally cook from scratch, my wife and me. What’s your idea of a perfect Saturday? We have a couple of favourite cafe’s where we live, and sometimes we just bring a book or our iPads and spend some time…