Editor’s note 1: If you’ve never encountered the term – ‘crossdreaming’ – then go back a step and understand your impulse towards the feminine. Read this article…
Editor’s note 2: This article is focused on trans readers and forced fem fantasies. If you are looking for a straightforward analysis of ‘sissy sexuality’, jump to the following piece.
No matter how liberal an age we live in, it’s always going to be embarrassing to tell people that you fantasize about feminization. If dealing with that isn’t enough, many crossdreamers also feel shame that these fantasies are not just about feminization, but forced feminization. In such fantasies the subject is forced to dress as a woman and perform sex acts, and is verbally humiliated while doing so.
Upon reaching climax, many crossdreamers feel that such fantasies are disgusting. But post orgasmic guilt isn’t the only negative feeling. For a transgender woman, these fantasies seem to challenge her authenticity as a woman, converting her into a fetishist. Such fantasies also jarr with liberal philosophies such as feminism and LGBT rights (the submissive enjoys being called ‘a dirty whore/sissy’) – causing further discomfort.
The aim of this article is to examine such fantasies and to uncover their cause. By discovering their appeal, we will decide if they have a negative effect on those who indulge them.
Forced feminization – a misleading term
The most important thing to note about forced feminisation is that it is not ‘forced.’ Forced feminisation would be to take a heterosexual male with no crossdressing desires, force him to wear women’s clothes and then perform sex acts on men. That would be truly ‘forced.’
There is nothing that a crossdreamer does in his forced feminisation fantasy that he would not want to do anyway. In reality it should be called ‘delegated feminisation’ because the dominatrix is giving him what he wants. Therefore, if the advent of a dominatrix allows him to act out his deepest fantasies, why is he being forced?…
…The answer lies in the way we construct fantasies.
When human beings construct fantasy they pay attention to story and detail. A boy who has a crush on the most beautiful girl in the class will invent a semi-realistic fantasy where she invites him to study at her house and then appears in the bedroom with no clothes. He won’t construct a fantasy where he walks into a strip joint and she’s stripping, catches his eye, and afterwards meets him for a fuck. He goes for the first fantasy because it is…
…and thus more exciting!
Now, let’s apply that logic to forced feminization.
Being feminized is difficult to attain in reality. This means you have a problem constructing the fantasy because there are few scenarios where it could actually happen. There’s also the chance that shame would make you back out of the fantasy (if you had a chance to fulfill it in reality) at the last minute. So, what’s the solution?
…You’re forced into it.
So, whether it’s a woman who wants to be gangbanged, or a man who wants to work as a maid, or a bisexual man who wants to suck other men, the way to make the fantasy more viable is the act of…
…being forced to do it.
Surprisingly, therefore, it turns out there’s no psychological mystery. A big part of forced feminisation fantasies is logistical: if it’s forced then it’s more likely to happen, which makes the fantasy more realistic, which makes it more arousing. Almost all fantasies that carry shame and are difficult to execute, will throw up a forced version. It is an intrinsic property of ‘dirty’ fantasies.
Being forced, therefore, is like the Pavlov’s bell of the fantasy. The second a subject lays eyes on the latex clad dominatrix they salivate… because they know they can not back out, they can not escape… their deepest fantasy is about to be presented on a plate. ‘Forced’… no way! It is the dominatrix who is serving the submissive!
Editor’s note 3: It has been noted by researchers that some transwomen still fantasize about this stuff years after transition. The reason is that our sexuality is, to a certain extent, locked in the past. Subconscious desires and shame that dominated our early life are the most powerful erotic force in adulthood. You shouldn’t be freaked out by these fantasies but see them as a consequence of your life history. Enjoy them!
Okay, so now we’ve explained the forced part of the fantasy, we need to understand the second dimension you find enjoyable: humiliation
Part 2: Why the humiliation? is now published
Looking for a deeper analysis? Buy the first book in this selection. The Science and Art of Transgender Erotica. It answers many fascinating questions about cross gender fantasy.
Forced feminization is hot, but it needn’t be abusive or negative. The domina ‘captures’ the errant crossdreamer and takes him into her own femininity. For me, the female gender is unique and is the source. Males are tropes of females. The journey back into femininity is both physical and mystical.
Oh my god, I love this,comment!
I hope that men will get to feel less guilt and shame about wanting to feminize; after all, playing “dress up” has been considered a traditional thing for boys to do at some time in their childhoods. Boys and men should know that it’s okay to be sugar and spice and everything nice when they want to. And as far as guilt about fantasizing about such a perfectly natural and pleasurable bodily act like sucking a man to an orgasm, what’s the big deal, what is there to feel guilty about? I mean I see sex as a Yin Yang phenomenon it flows from one side to the other, there is nothing wrong for a person to want to be the feminine principle.
Aloha: Who really knows what is hidden in the” Mind of Men”? Society tells us how to behave but what are we keeping repressed inside? Is it our true nature trying to express its self? Have we taken time to investigate our real selves? Everyone is so busy on their IPhones or cellphones and they never try to take time away from these things and explore ourselves. Are these thing really important or are they ways of not facing the what’s real? Are we that busy with our social lives that we can’t take time to learn what may bring us happiness? Who do you see when you look into the mirror, are you happy with them?
I am sat here, feeling tearful as I reflect upon my up and down relationship with forced feminization and how that plays with transgendered feelings with the guilt, nay even disgust and yet unable stop returning to it. You have contributed through this and the follow up article something that truly is a blessing, something that’ll help me be the whole me by understanding that it’s a perfectly normal and logical way of getting to where you feel you are because in reality as you say we’re delegating what we actual want and so we are served the very fantasies we craved and benefit us. ***Hugs***
Candy, I added this part of the article for you….
It has been noted by researchers that some transwomen still fantasize about this stuff years after transition. The reason is that our sexuality is, to a certain extent, locked in the past. Subconscious desires and shame that dominated our early life are the most powerful erotic force in adulthood. You shouldn’t be freaked out by these fantasies but see them as a consequence of your life history. Enjoy them!
Don’t beat yourself up… what we fantasize about has nothing to do with who we are…it’s just shit from our past we never asked for. xx
‘Forced modesty is forced grace’ – an illusion of faith or goodness which would deceive men about the true value of any woman