Editor’s note 1: If you’ve never encountered the term – ‘crossdreaming’ – then go back a step and understand your impulse towards the feminine. Read this article…
Editor’s note 2: This article is focused on trans readers and forced fem fantasies. If you are looking for a straightforward analysis of ‘sissy sexuality’, jump to the following piece.
No matter how liberal an age we live in, it’s always going to be embarrassing to tell people that you fantasize about feminization. If dealing with that isn’t enough, many crossdreamers also feel shame that these fantasies are not just about feminization, but forced feminization. In such fantasies the subject is forced to dress as a woman and perform sex acts, and is verbally humiliated while doing so.
Upon reaching climax, many crossdreamers feel that such fantasies are disgusting. But post orgasmic guilt isn’t the only negative feeling. For a transgender woman, these fantasies seem to challenge her authenticity as a woman, converting her into a fetishist. Such fantasies also jarr with liberal philosophies such as feminism and LGBT rights (the submissive enjoys being called ‘a dirty whore/sissy’) – causing further discomfort.
The aim of this article is to examine such fantasies and to uncover their cause. By discovering their appeal, we will decide if they have a negative effect on those who indulge them.
Forced feminization – a misleading term
The most important thing to note about forced feminisation is that it is not ‘forced.’ Forced feminisation would be to take a heterosexual male with no crossdressing desires, force him to wear women’s clothes and then perform sex acts on men. That would be truly ‘forced.’
There is nothing that a crossdreamer does in his forced feminisation fantasy that he would not want to do anyway. In reality it should be called ‘delegated feminisation’ because the dominatrix is giving him what he wants. Therefore, if the advent of a dominatrix allows him to act out his deepest fantasies, why is he being forced?…
…The answer lies in the way we construct fantasies.
When human beings construct fantasy they pay attention to story and detail. A boy who has a crush on the most beautiful girl in the class will invent a semi-realistic fantasy where she invites him to study at her house and then appears in the bedroom with no clothes. He won’t construct a fantasy where he walks into a strip joint and she’s stripping, catches his eye, and afterwards meets him for a fuck. He goes for the first fantasy because it is…
…and thus more exciting!
Now, let’s apply that logic to forced feminization.
Being feminized is difficult to attain in reality. This means you have a problem constructing the fantasy because there are few scenarios where it could actually happen. There’s also the chance that shame would make you back out of the fantasy (if you had a chance to fulfill it in reality) at the last minute. So, what’s the solution?
…You’re forced into it.
So, whether it’s a woman who wants to be gangbanged, or a man who wants to work as a maid, or a bisexual man who wants to suck other men, the way to make the fantasy more viable is the act of…
…being forced to do it.
Surprisingly, therefore, it turns out there’s no psychological mystery. A big part of forced feminisation fantasies is logistical: if it’s forced then it’s more likely to happen, which makes the fantasy more realistic, which makes it more arousing. Almost all fantasies that carry shame and are difficult to execute, will throw up a forced version. It is an intrinsic property of ‘dirty’ fantasies.
Being forced, therefore, is like the Pavlov’s bell of the fantasy. The second a subject lays eyes on the latex clad dominatrix they salivate… because they know they can not back out, they can not escape… their deepest fantasy is about to be presented on a plate. ‘Forced’… no way! It is the dominatrix who is serving the submissive!
Editor’s note 3: It has been noted by researchers that some transwomen still fantasize about this stuff years after transition. The reason is that our sexuality is, to a certain extent, locked in the past. Subconscious desires and shame that dominated our early life are the most powerful erotic force in adulthood. You shouldn’t be freaked out by these fantasies but see them as a consequence of your life history. Enjoy them!
Okay, so now we’ve explained the forced part of the fantasy, we need to understand the second dimension you find enjoyable: humiliation
Looking for a deeper analysis? Buy the first book in this selection. The Science and Art of Transgender Erotica. It answers many fascinating questions about cross gender fantasy.